Marriage requires a radical commitment to love our spouses as they are, while longing for them to become what they are not yet. Every marriage moves either towards enhancing one another's glory or towards degrading each other.
~Dan Allender and Tremper Longman III

If you treat a man as he is, he will stay as he is. But if you treat him as if he were what he ought to be and could be, he will become the bigger and better man.
~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

*both quotes taken from Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas